Dear Uncle Agony,I find it an interesting topic as for different reasons I often have to avoid marking my own submissive woman. It can be very annoying having to be careful not to leave suspicious marks.
I'm a nice submissive girl who has been in a sexless marriage for several years. I recently began having an affair, and my new lover and I very much want him to tie me up. (Ahem. Very much!)
But. He is concerned about leaving marks on my skin. I haven't been able to find much helpful advice on bondage techniques that *avoid* leaving marks.
Can you help?
Thank you,
Naughty Lizard
My advice to Naughty Lizard was as follows
I'm pleased you seem to have found a partner to have fun with and I do understand your dilemma. If you have tried the local kink friendly sex store then you may be left with the internet. There are things you can get from there but it might be that neither of you can have things delivered through the post if your lover is also married.I wonder if readers can offer further advice?
I did a bit of Googling and found sites that advertised soft rope that they claimed did not mark. One of the things seems to be to avoid twisted rope as opposed to covered rope. In the end though it is a matter of how tightly you tie the ropes and for how long! I find that most rope marks where there is no chaffing are gone in an hour or so - and many marks even more quickly. Knotting techniques are useful too - so that the rope does not bite around you. There are some good instructional videos on twistedmonk.com
When I Googled I also found this advice -
http://socyberty.com/folklore/self-bondage-rope-marks/
I am in the same situation as naughty Lizard. The best way to use rope and not get marks is to use cuffs and then use rope itself to put you in different positions. also if you use rope over cloth then it wont leave rope marks, but you might get a couple small marks from fabric. hope this helps. also good luck in the future.
ReplyDeletePet, thanks for that suggestion. We are open to restraints other than rope. When we looked at a number of different cuffs at our local high-end, female-friendly sex store, all of them had edges that seemed likely to bruise or rub, but not in a good way.
ReplyDeleteIs there a brand or maker you recommend? Are we being paranoid?
We got restraints from the Collar Factory. I agree with Naga-bot, most marks are really just indentations in the skin. In around 30 mins they are usually gone. Usually a watch or cuff bracelet would cover them up until they are gone. The only time I have gotten marks from rope around when doing a chest harness. I get very skinny rope bruises just above my breasts next to my arm pits. Otherwise everything else disappears in a very short while.
DeleteDepending on the type of rope bondage done, most marks aren't permanent. Usually what gets left behind is an imprint of the rope, which we affectionately refer to as rope bites. Most of these "bites" actually end up being covered my clothes, since it's still fairly cool out. I've been tied up pretty much everyday (multiple times a day) for over a year with various types of rope, from traditional Japanese jute to hemp to scratchy coconut rope to cotton, and the only permanent marks I have are on my hips from doing really stressful rope suspensions (meaning the minimal amount of ropes needed).
ReplyDeleteAlso, rope doesn't have to be extremely tight in order to be restrictive. Learning these helps cut down on marks as well.
The type of rope also plays a factor, as well as it's diameter. It's something to experiment with to see what feels best for you.
Also, keep in mind any shifting or moving of a body within rope changes how ropes sit on the body or where pressure is applied. Just because you're standing up in a tie and it's not leaving marks doesn't necessarily mean that sitting in the same tie won't mark you.
This is, of course, not including any other forms of play you incorporate with bondage. If you do impact, you're more likely to struggle in your bonds will will most likely mark you.
It really just depends on your style of play and what you're looking for :)
If you have any questions about rope bondage, I would be happy to answer them :) just shoot me a message.
Thank you! I really appreciate all the information.
DeleteThank you very, very much PetofSkyMaster2 and Naga-bot. Your advice is really useful - all the more so as it is based on personal experience. I'm sure Naughty Lizard will find it very helpful.
ReplyDeleteIt has made me want to search for the restraints and my submissive woman ...
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If it doesn't need to be rope, then Duct Tape is a good option, or the bondage tape most stores sell
ReplyDeleteThanks Aly - yes, tape can be a good alternative, especially bondage tape that just sticks to itself.
ReplyDeleteI also heard from a friend that veterinary bandages used for horses just stick to themselves and can be very useful for bondage.
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fur or fleece lined cuffs leave minimal marks that fade quickly
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My husband wants to leave bondage mark. Any suggestions?
ReplyDeleteMy husband wants to leave marks on me but not sure what to use. Any suggestions?
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