tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post2375384922814162162..comments2023-10-23T22:26:59.110+01:00Comments on Uncle Agony: "brand spanking new to the D/s world"Pygarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-26775813775147730002013-05-28T14:58:18.370+01:002013-05-28T14:58:18.370+01:00Thank you Winter, Toni, Anonymous and Sinister Ali...Thank you Winter, Toni, Anonymous and Sinister Ali for all your helpful thoughts and advice.<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-59038516246689750042013-05-26T17:30:17.276+01:002013-05-26T17:30:17.276+01:00I could say alot with this one. you will notice o...I could say alot with this one. you will notice on some of my pagez that i claim to top from the bottom. sometimes i do. i'm looking for more master/slave and Master Rick says hes serious about M/s too but sometimes he needs a little help getting going. we started making videos for Mazter J and Miztrezz E. i would tell him how they needed to go, or script them if you will and he would set up the camera and film. becuase he knew what to do his domknate streak would come out. now he has his own videos he directs. the first time he ordered for me, i told him what to order prior to getting to the location, he messed it up but i was a great slave and smiled, thanked him, and enjoyed what came. now he orders wherever we go. with him i think its always fear of messing up or upsetting me. were working on him choosing the lingerie when i go bra shopping. and were also working on him enforcing the rules he sets. sinister_alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18437723230612033225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-37468097722512734972012-11-19T14:45:15.339+00:002012-11-19T14:45:15.339+00:00My husband and I are in a similar place..... I got...My husband and I are in a similar place..... I got here by googling "Can you learn to be dominant". Reading this was exciting to me, I see dominant strains in my husband but he has been emasculated in every relationship in his life, even with his parents. I have been emotionally and physically abandoned and so submitting and trusting have been difficult for me...... but not with him. We are excited to start this journey together. Your "The Kind Dom" blog and this page will be helping us along our way. I asked him last night how this was all making him feel and immediately he responded with what his HEAD was thinking. I said, tell me what you FEEL. His response..... exhilarated and completely aroused..... he admitted never feeling trusted enough to be "in charge" in his relationships. He's been away on business for 10weeks now...... he comes home the day before Thanksgiving. I shake with the need to be near him..... and I feel like a kid at Christmas :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-44944001230405436692012-11-16T13:42:41.869+00:002012-11-16T13:42:41.869+00:00Have you tried asking him to restrain you? I love ...Have you tried asking him to restrain you? I love this <a href="http://sexypleasure.co.uk/bondage/restraints-and-chastity-items/black-rose-silky-surrender" rel="nofollow">Silky Restraints</a>Tonihttp://www.sexypleasure.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-75343098042387898842012-10-20T05:18:22.741+01:002012-10-20T05:18:22.741+01:00Maybe you could hire some sort of personal assista...Maybe you could hire some sort of personal assistant. Who could ensure(make him)or do the things that you need to get done. That way you don't have to use your dominant side in your relationship with him. Allowing you to be completely submissive,and him in turn to feel more dominant.<br /><br />This is new to me too, so I don't really know what I'm talking about.<br /><br />Thanks WinterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-70744238437905223622012-09-30T16:10:01.787+01:002012-09-30T16:10:01.787+01:00Thank you Maryann.
Now spanking to tears ...
I r...Thank you Maryann.<br /><br />Now spanking to tears ...<br /><br />I remember writing a story about that many years ago. A sub friend said she wanted to be spanked to tears because she could not cry for herself but only for others. Perhaps I will write more of this elsewhere.<br /><br />Like you - if others try your suggestions out I would love to hear how it works!<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-59609098839488612702012-09-30T16:07:34.110+01:002012-09-30T16:07:34.110+01:00Thank you Antimamao413 (or can I call you Kitty?) ...Thank you Antimamao413 (or can I call you Kitty?) It is fascinating that you feel in the same place as wild cat. I wonder if either or both of you would like to correspond with each other about this - there may be things you can learn from each other or at least be able to empathise with one another and perhaps offer mutual support.<br /><br />If you think that might be helpful do email me and I'll pass your details on to wild cat.<br /><br />Good luck<br /><br />P xxPygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-11899085086374696402012-09-29T18:39:43.238+01:002012-09-29T18:39:43.238+01:00Maybe you two could start with planning a time for...Maybe you two could start with planning a time for him to spank you to tears. Talk about after care ahead of time. How long should he keep spanking once you start to cry? Should you be sent to the corner to cry it out or should he hold you? He could stroke your hair, rub lotion on your bottom, etc. If he knows what to do and you know what to expect, it might be successful. Then, later talk about how it went. <br />MaryannAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-71819798661113651542012-09-29T04:36:30.364+01:002012-09-29T04:36:30.364+01:00I am so glad I have read her post and your respons...I am so glad I have read her post and your response. I am In the exact same position, and feel so relieved that she feels as strongly as I do about her husband. Her husband and mine could be twins...I also am the breadwinner of the house. It is just so nice to know I am not alone in these barely tested waters of D/s.<br />Antimama0413https://www.blogger.com/profile/18088979730282070487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-37368333044853629242012-09-26T13:59:03.502+01:002012-09-26T13:59:03.502+01:00Thanks wild cat.
The follow up question is intere...Thanks wild cat.<br /><br />The follow up question is interesting. Clearly your husband can be assertive - but like many men has trouble with strong emotions in a woman! Perhaps that can be even harder when you are married. Well - taming a wild cat can be hard. I know with my own dear sub! Though I have often said that it is <i>her</i> strength that helps me to dominate her. That is not to say that it is not hard when she is emotional. However it is when she is emotional that she needs my dominance most to help calm her. Though I think you are talking of emotions in a different way perhaps.Pygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8022929989646932055.post-41978867642891155142012-09-26T13:57:02.830+01:002012-09-26T13:57:02.830+01:00I received this follow-up email from wild cat:
Hi...I received this follow-up email from wild cat:<br /><br /><i>Hi Pygar,<br /><br />Thanks for your fast reply! This is great advice, and it's given me a lot to think about. <br /><br />If you don't mind, it has sparked a follow up question...<br /><br />You mentioned that for Doms, it needs to be more of an embedded personality. My husband actually very much has the embedded personality, in that he is a natural teacher and leader (he does work, he's just not bringing is as much money as me). I've seen him be very "Dom" with his students--not in a sexual way, but I think you know what I mean. With me, he has been in charge of many things; for example, he knows a lot about health and he often gives me "assignments" on how to improve my health (such as to take certain vitamin supplements, etc.) that I willingly, joyfully, and religiously fulfill. This was all before we ever explored this world, and we are now seeing that in many ways, we have already lived certain aspects of it. <br /><br />However, my frustration is that he is still easy to "knock over." He is-by his own admission and in his words-- "terrified of a woman's emotions." This is probably where the trust lacks, and not so much that he procrastinates on things. Is there anything I can do to help ease this? I don't want to submit if I feel uneasy; I can appreciate, though, that maybe he needs to start with a kitten before he can tame a wild cat. <br /><br />Thanks again Pygar! </i>Pygarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913556740445196578noreply@blogger.com